How To Get Your Partner Involved with the Newborn?

Becoming a father may make your partner feel panicked, shocked, scared, and overwhelmed. It is completely natural, and it happens with most dads. In the first few years, couples need to learn lots of parenting skills. It is a big responsibility which mothers may handle better, but dads may find it the most challenging to transition into the new role.

Although it’s natural and common, it doesn’t mean you can’t solve this problem. Here are some tried and tested methods to get your partner involved with the newborn. These tricks helped my husband to enjoy parenthood instead of freaking out.

5 Simple Tips to Help Him Engage with the Newborn

1.      Register Together

Make sure to involve your partner in the baby registry time. It’s not a great idea to make all the decisions by yourself. While there are some important things to purchase that only you know, there are some registry items that you can buy with your partner.

So, when you are buying a car seat, crib, and stroller, and your partner wants some baby mittens, let them buy. I must say again, there is no harm in letting him put the things on the list. Not to mention, this trick will make him excited for the baby as well.

2.      Give Him Some Fun Duties

I know that there are some things that you want your partner to perform. For instance, asking him to change the 4 am diaper. Well, set realistic expectations for now and trust him with simple things. Assign him some fun and entertaining activities, such as giving a bath to your baby or singing baby a lullaby.

Not only will he enjoy these activities, but he will also get time to bond with the newborn.

3.      Leave them Alone and Don’t Interfere

You know what things are best for your child, but it’s important to let your husband or partner make some decisions. Give them some autonomy and independence in caring for your little one.

If your partner knows nothing about babies, you can simply teach them the basics. Don’t check on them every second when father and baby are trying to build a connection with each other.

My tip is to go for a walk or do kitchen chores when the father is busy with the baby.

4.      Do Acknowledge That Your Partner Is Under Pressure Too

It will be great if you arrange things in a way that both of you get the opportunity to do regular activities or something you want. You and your partner can do this on an alternative basis when you are adjusted with the baby schedule.

But at the same time, it is also important to involve in some activities together on a regular basis. It will not cost you anything if you perform an activity together every month. Instead, it will keep the spark between you and your partner and not make your partner feel that you are ignoring him.

5.      Avoid Panicking

I had done this throughout the first week after Sofia’s birth, but I must tell you, it hurts the confidence of your partner. You need to avoid overreacting every time when your guy holds or bathes the baby.

Keep quiet as long as he is doing things the right way. If you give him time, he will figure out things by himself.

Bottom Line

So, here are some methods to get the dad involved with the new baby. And yes, just relax, and enjoy the moments when your partner tries to comfort the baby. These moments have their own beauty.